We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has.
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The seeds of the Argument Culture can be found our classrooms, where a teacher will introduce an article or an idea . . . setting up debates where people learn not to listen to each other because they're so busy trying to win the debate.Deborah Tannen
Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's.
Deborah Tannen
The repercussions are so deep because our responses are emotional. When you think you're being snubbed, what does that mean It means your 'humanness' is not being acknowledged. When you feel you're being imposed on, your reaction of 'Give me some space' is so automatic.
Deborah Tannen
Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.
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It's our tendency to approach every problem as if it were a fight between two sides. We see it in headlines that are always using metaphors for war. It's a general atmosphere of animosity and contention that has taken over our public discourse.
Deborah Tannen
Part of the reason (motherly advice) bugs us as daughters is because our mothers are so powerful in our lives. They loom like giants. The reason mothers keep at it is because they're so powerless. They cannot get you to do what is so obvious to them you should do.
Deborah Tannen
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