Being a mother is like trying to hold a wolf by the ears,ö Gram said. ôIf you have three or four ûor more û chickabiddies, youÆre dancing on a hot griddle all the time. You donÆt have time to think about anything else. And if youÆve only got one or two, itÆs almost harder. You have room left over û empty spaces that you think youÆve got to fill up.