The listener makes the backbiter.
More French Proverbs:
The love that you die from is too big.French
It is not the big oxen that do the best day's work.
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To rob a robber is not robbing.
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No fishing like fishing in the sea.
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Give me the rhubarb and you may take the senna.
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Manual jokes are clown's jokes.
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