Albert Ellis Quotes (41 Quotes)


    If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.

    We're a nonprofit organization, and it usually costs 100 an hour for individual therapy. Participating in a group costs 120 a month.

    There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.

    Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

    The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.


    I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies.

    We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.

    The psychotics, naturally, don't think straight. Severe personality disorders take much longer to treat than people who are neurotic.

    I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.

    I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist.

    People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

    By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.

    Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.

    I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.

    I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.

    I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.


    Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.

    Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

    You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

    I just had a client this week who came to me after 10 years of Freudian therapy. He's in love with his analyst, and she is sort of in love with him.

    For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.

    If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

    People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

    People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

    I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.

    I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.

    I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.

    He would have been a security problem for any jail he would have been at. The judge was cognizant of that.

    We teach people to be flexible, scientific and logical in their thinking and therefore to be less prone to brainwashing by the therapist.

    I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.

    Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.

    People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.

    I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.

    The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

    There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

    I just got fed up. I was ready to blow up. This country is about enforcing our laws and if we don't, we'll have chaos worse than we already do.

    Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

    In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.

    As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.

    Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.


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